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Making New Year's Resolutions Stick: A Real-World Guide

January 17, 2024
Diane Almanzor
Diane Almanzor
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So, you've set a New Year's resolution. Great! But how often have these resolutions slipped through the cracks? Let's change that this year. Using wisdom from James Clear's "Atomic Habits," we'll tackle the common goal of cutting down screen time, but in a way that feels doable and even enjoyable.

The Habit Loop: Your Blueprint for Change

Ever wonder why some habits stick and others just fade away? James Clear, in his game-changing approach to habit formation, lays it all out in a simple yet powerful concept: the Habit Loop. 

As the name suggests, the Habit Loop is a four-part journey that your brain goes through when forming a habit. It's a cycle that serves as a backbone of every habit you have, whether it's mindlessly checking your phone or automatically reaching for a snack at a certain time of day.

1. Cue: The Starting Signal - Unpacking the Trigger of Habits

When we talk about the cue in the Habit Loop, we're essentially discussing the starting gun of habit formation. It's a fascinating and crucial part of why we do what we do, often without even realizing it.

Cues are powerful because they can be almost anything that our brain associates with a particular habit. They act as the spark that ignites the process of automatic behavior. It's like a subconscious nudge that says, "Hey, it's time to do that thing we do."

Types of Cues

  • Time-Based Cues: These are the no-brainers. Like, brushing your teeth right after you wake up – it's all about timing.
  • Location-Based Cues: Ever notice how walking into the kitchen makes you think about snacking? That's your environment cuing you.
  • Emotional Cues: Stress, happiness, boredom – our feelings can definitely push us towards certain habits, like doom scrolling or grabbing some comfort food.
  • People-Based Cues: Do you have a friend you always grab coffee with? Or someone who you always end up hitting the gym with? People can be cues, too.
  • Sequential Cues: This is about habits that follow a sequence. Like, putting on running shoes leads to a run. It's a domino effect.

Why Cues Matter

Cues are the treasure map to understanding our automatic behaviors. Spot your cues, and you've got the keys to reshaping your habits. And since our lives are pretty much a collection of our habits, changing them can change everything.

Harnessing the Power of Cues

  • Awareness: First up, tune into your daily routine. What do you do on autopilot, and what's setting it off?
  • Alteration: Got a cue that leads to a not-so-great habit? Time to tweak it. If stress is making you snack a lot, how can you switch up your environment to dial down the stress?
  • Substitution: Swap out a bad habit for a better one, using the same cue. If you're a smoker, maybe swap that smoke break with a quick walk or some fresh air.
  • Consistency: The more a cue consistently leads to a habit, the stronger it gets. So, keep at it with positive habits.

Remember, cues are the starting line of our habits – understanding them means you're already halfway to mastering them.

2. Craving: The Motivational Force - Understanding the Heart of Habit Formation

Cravings are the hidden drivers of our habits, the internal forces that propel us towards certain actions. They're not just about wanting; they're about needing something that a habit provides. This part of the Habit Loop is where desire and motivation live and breathe.

Cravings are about seeking a change in how we feel. This distinction is key to understanding and reshaping our habits.

Types of Cravings

  • Emotional Relief: Are you mindlessly scrolling through social media? It's probably not about the posts; it's about escaping stress or boredom.
  • Physical Pleasure: Some habits, like reaching for that chocolate bar or going for a run, are all about the body's quest for feel-good vibes.
  • Social Connection: Ever notice how some habits are about feeling like you're part of the crowd? That's this craving in action.
  • Mental Stimulation: This one's about keeping the brain busy and challenged – think reading, puzzles, or strategy games.
  • Sense of Achievement: It's that awesome "I did it!" feelings that can make us stick to certain habits, whether it's work-related, a personal project, or hitting a fitness goal.

Why Cravings Are Crucial

Understanding cravings is essential because they are the reason behind our habits. They're the real reason we do what we do, even when it's not the best choice for us. But, guess what? You can totally channel these cravings for the better.

Harnessing Cravings for Positive Change

  • Dig Deeper: Next time you reach for that evening glass of wine, ask yourself, is it the wine or just unwinding you're after?
  • Healthier Swaps: Once you know what you're really craving, look for better ways to get there. If it's about chilling out, why not try a bath or a hobby instead?
  • Stay Mindful: Catch those cravings as they pop up. Recognizing them can give you a chance to choose differently.
  • Switch Up Your Thinking: If a sweets craving is really about stress, maybe a walk could be a better answer.
  • New Habits for Old Cravings: If you're after social connection, skip the endless scrolling and maybe call up a friend.

Cravings are the big players in our habit game. They're not just fleeting wants; they're responses to deeper needs. By getting smart about these cravings, we can reshape our habits to line up with our goals, boosting our overall well-being. It's about turning those cravings from habit traps into stepping stones for positive change

3. Response: The Actual Habit - Delving into Action

When we reach the 'Response' stage in the Habit Loop, we're at the heart of the matter: the habit itself. This stage is where the rubber meets the road, where thoughts and cravings translate into tangible actions or reactions.

The response is your go-to move. It's what you do instinctively when a certain trigger pops up. Maybe it's grabbing a snack when you hit a lull or lacing up your running shoes the moment your alarm blares. It could even be something internal, like the way you might automatically criticize yourself after a slip-up.

Characteristics of an Effective Response

  • Keep It Simple: The easier the action, the more likely it'll stick. Say you want to get fit. Kicking off with a quick stroll around the block beats diving into an intense gym session.
  • Seek Satisfaction: There's got to be some joy or payoff in what you're doing. Enjoy the breeze on your face during that walk? That's the kind of feel-good factor that'll keep you coming back for more.
  • Make It Fit: Your new habit should slide into your life like a missing puzzle piece, not throw your whole routine out of whack.
  • Be Specific: Vague goals get vague results. Nailing down specifics like 'ten push-ups post-coffee' is way more effective than a broad 'get more exercise.'

Why It All Hinges on the Response

This stage is where the magic happens. It's your chance to really shape your day, your habits, and your life. The beauty is in the control you have here – the power to pick one action over another.

Tips for Nailing the Response Stage

  • Start Off Easy: Pick responses so simple they feel almost effortless. Aim to read more? How about starting with just one page each night?
  • Piggyback on Existing Routines: Got a coffee habit? Perfect – add your new page-reading goal to it.
  • Celebrate Every Little Victory: Pat yourself on the back for all the small wins. They add up and keep the motivation high.
  • Be Ready to Tweak: If something's not quite clicking, switch it up. Stay flexible and keep adjusting until it feels just right.

To wrap it up, the response stage is where your intentions take flight. It's all about choosing actions that are doable, rewarding, and mesh well with your life. Focus on these aspects, and you'll build habits that are not just good for you, but also enjoyable and lasting. This is where you really start to see the power of the Habit Loop, transforming your routines and, in turn, your entire life.

4. Reward: The Satisfaction - Understanding the Endgame of Habits

The concept of reward in the Habit Loop is where the magic happens. It's the finale, the payoff for the behavior you've just exhibited. This stage is crucial because it's what your brain remembers and seeks to replicate. 

Rewards are the feel-good factors of habits. They're the brain's way of patting itself on the back, saying, "That was good. Let's do it again." This positive reinforcement is what locks a habit into place.

Types of Rewards

  • Tangible Rewards: These are the things you can touch or feel, like the yumminess of a slice of pizza after a long day or the energy buzz from a great workout.
  • Emotional Rewards: Sometimes, it's all about how a habit makes you feel. Ranting on Twitter might give you a quick emotional fix, or ticking off a to-do list can make you feel like a champ.
  • Social Rewards: We're wired to be social, so getting a thumbs-up from friends or a pat on the back at work can really boost our motivation.
  • Intrinsic Rewards: These come from inside you, like the satisfaction of finishing a great book or the zen feeling after a meditation session.

Why Rewards Matter

Rewards are the reason habits stick. They create a positive association in your brain, making you more likely to repeat the behavior. Without a rewarding outcome, there's little incentive for the brain to make a habit out of the behavior.

Maximizing the Impact of Rewards

  • Immediate Gratification: Our brains dig for instant rewards. The faster the reward comes after the behavior, the tighter the bond.
  • Consistency: Keeping your rewards regular helps build stronger habits. If you know there's a treat waiting every time you hit a goal, you'll be more eager to get there.
  • Personalization: Pick rewards that really mean something to you. What floats one person's boat might sink another's.
  • Balance: The reward should match the effort. Too big, and it loses its charm; too small, and it might not do the trick.

The Role of Rewards in Changing Habits

Getting the hang of the reward thing is a big part of changing habits. Trying to cut down on screen time? Find a reward that fills the same gap but in a healthier way. Maybe it's the chill vibes from a walk or the buzz from a real-life chat.

Rewards aren't just the cherry on top; they're the springboard into your next habit cycle. They make sure that the habits we form are more than just routines; they're things we actually get excited about. 

By getting smart with our rewards, we can shape habits that don't just stick around but really add something special to our day-to-day life.

Why the Habit Loop is Important

The Habit Loop is more than just a concept; it's a practical framework that offers a deeper understanding and control over our behaviors. 

It provides a predictable pattern that explains how habits are formed and maintained. By understanding this pattern, we can predict how new habits will develop and how existing ones can be altered.

Often, we perform actions without fully understanding why. The Habit Loop helps us to uncover the 'why' behind our habits, offering insights into our own behaviors and motivations.

Let's say you're trying to be healthier. Instead of a broad goal, the Habit Loop helps you zero in on what triggers your less healthy habits and what rewards you're really after. It's about getting specific and making changes that stick. With this approach, you're not just shooting in the dark; you're making precise, effective changes.

By breaking down the habit into specific components (cue, craving, response, reward), we can target our efforts more effectively. This targeted approach is far more efficient than vague resolutions like "I want to be healthier."

Making the Habit Loop Work for You

Let's get real about habits. What's pulling you towards the fridge or your phone? Pinpointing what kicks off your habits, be it stress or boredom, is your starting block for change.

Now, how about swapping out those less-than-ideal habits? If stress sends you raiding the cookie jar, could a couple of minutes of deep breathing be the new go-to?

Make this switch as seamless as possible. If you're eyeing meditation, start with just a few minutes. Keep it simple, and you're more likely to keep at it.

The payoff? Make sure it counts. If a brief meditation leaves you chilled out and less frazzled, that's a win. This reward is what's going to seal the deal on your new habit.

Remember, patience is your ally here. Building a new habit is a marathon, not a sprint. Stick to the rhythm of cue, craving, response, and reward, and watch as this new pattern takes root in your daily life.

Diane Almanzor
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